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Mar
11
Finding Community and Building Solidarity for Socially Exhausted Introverts*
If you're paying attention, you find the keys to all your future interactions
3 min read
Mar
04
How to Heal When Life Feels Like the Environment That Harmed You
Regaining our sense of agency is another way of saying regaining the sense of power we lost in the environment(s) that harmed us
5 min read
Feb
05
Asking for Help When You Don’t Conform to Social Expectations
Here’s what “trans rights are human rights” really means -- for everyone
5 min read
Jan
31
To Protect Our Children, We First Need to Heal Ourselves
The predatory men I engaged with recognized I was starved for connection. Our support structures need to realize this, too.
13 min read
Jan
31
How American Hero Narratives Keep Us From Solving Social Crises — or Healing
We insist on “rescuer” narratives at the expense of developing agency for our children and ourselves
10 min read
Jan
31
5 Things “Stranger Danger” Education Got Wrong, and 1 It Gets Right
How emphasizing “stranger danger” hamstrung a generation’s understanding of threats to child safety
9 min read
Jan
31
How Generational Trauma Compounds Child and Intimate Partner Abuse
Learning to fit in and not make waves might have been considered a form of “practice” for adult womanhood. We paper over our needs, preferences, and sense of autonomy when we learn they’re antithetical to our survival.
9 min read
Jan
31
Why It’s More Critical Now Than Ever to Tell Our “Not That Bad” Abuse Stories
Knowing what it looks, sounds, acts, and feels like before it becomes criminal can help us heal — and know what to look for. Our future may depend on it.
15 min read
Jan
23
Asking for Help When Help Feels Few and Far Between
At a time when I feel less fearful of healthy confrontation, others seem to fear it from me — a sign of a deeply dysfunctional society
5 min read
Dec
31
Asking for Help When You Can’t Pull Back Any Longer
Sharing from survival mode introduces power differentials that can feel difficult to get out from under, but which are, ultimately, temporary.
6 min read