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Dec
31
Asking for Help When You Can’t Pull Back Any Longer
Sharing from survival mode introduces power differentials that can feel difficult to get out from under, but which are, ultimately, temporary.
6 min read
Jul
09
Need Help? Look for the Strings Attached (Before They Strangle You)
Receiving assistance shouldn’t stand on the back of your submission to authority
7 min read
Jun
10
Do You Really Want People to “Just Ask for Help”?
When resources are scarce and getting scarcer, ‘help’ can be conflated with ‘power — and people need community, not rescuers
9 min read
May
23
How to Learn to Trust, Even When You're Afraid
Because the risk of not trusting is greater than the risk of trusting the wrong people
4 min read
Mar
30
Reaching Out for Help When Everything Tells You to Pull Back
Why should I ask? Why should anyone answer?
I am coming to this first post still recovering from a pretty
4 min read
Mar
29
Abusers Hide Behind the Veneer of Respectability
So that you will trust them and provide plausible deniability when they’re found out
7 min read
Jan
18
Confessions of a Former Manic Pixie Pick-Me
How my survival response to rejection pitted me against other women
4 min read
Oct
19
How Undiagnosed ADHD Made Me Vulnerable to Predatory Grooming
Or, how intersectional feminism is crucial to child protection
7 min read
Oct
12
The Future of Us: Can We Learn to Connect Like Forest Fungi?
Reclaiming our innate connections to ourselves and each other
8 min read
Aug
07
An ADHD Recovering People-Pleaser Negotiates Chores With Her Teens
Learning how to make our own way within community and contribution
8 min read