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Dec
31
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Asking for Help When You Can’t Pull Back Any Longer

Sharing from survival mode introduces power differentials that can feel difficult to get out from under, but which are, ultimately, temporary.
6 min read
Jul
09
A white man's hands hold the hands of an elderly woman in a blue skirt, seated in a wheelchair

Need Help? Look for the Strings Attached (Before They Strangle You)

Receiving assistance shouldn’t stand on the back of your submission to authority
7 min read
Jun
10
Do You Really Want People to “Just Ask for Help”?

Do You Really Want People to “Just Ask for Help”?

When resources are scarce and getting scarcer, ‘help’ can be conflated with ‘power' — and people need community, not rescuers
9 min read
May
23

How to Learn to Trust, Even When You're Afraid

Because the risk of not trusting is greater than the risk of trusting the wrong people
4 min read
Mar
30
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Reaching Out for Help When Everything Tells You to Pull Back

Why should I ask? Why should anyone answer? I am coming to this first post still recovering from a pretty
4 min read
Mar
29
A black and white image of a white human face mask overlaid on a dark splatter on a wall.

Abusers Hide Behind the Veneer of Respectability

So that you will trust them and provide plausible deniability when they’re found out
7 min read
Jan
18
A young woman in a black dress and hat sits on grass in front of flowering shrubs, holding and smelling a sunflower

Confessions of a Former Manic Pixie Pick-Me

How my survival response to rejection pitted me against other women
4 min read
Oct
19
A person with medium length wavy brown hair and a short sleeve white shirt leans on a natural wood window frame

How Undiagnosed ADHD Made Me Vulnerable to Predatory Grooming

Or, how intersectional feminism is crucial to child protection
7 min read
Oct
12
The Future of Us: Can We Learn to Connect Like Forest Fungi?

The Future of Us: Can We Learn to Connect Like Forest Fungi?

Reclaiming our innate connections to ourselves and each other
8 min read
Aug
07
An Asian child with natural hair washes a head of broccoli under running water over a sink, an adult's hands behind her

An ADHD Recovering People-Pleaser Negotiates Chores With Her Teens

Learning how to make our own way within community and contribution
8 min read